9 Signs You’re Spending Too Much Time Around Negative People

tm-pilbox.global.ssl.fastly.netAuthor: Amy Morin
Source: TheMuse

Whether your mother-in-law is a constant complainer, your boss is an angry cynic, or your neighbor is a pessimistic downer, dealing with toxic people can be unavoidable. But the way you respond to toxic people is your choice.

If you’re not careful, toxic people can negatively influence the way you think, feel, and behave. They can introduce chaos into your life and cause unnecessary stress that will drag you down. Here are nine telltale signs toxic people are getting the best of you:

1. You Talk About Them a Lot

Grumbling to your co-workers about your rude boss, or complaining to your spouse about that self-absorbed relative takes time and energy. Talking about toxic people when they’re not around gives them more power over your life.

2. You Lose Your Temper

Whether you’re dealing with a master manipulator or the office gossip, toxic people can stir up strong emotions. If you’re not careful, the stress and frustration can easily turn to rage. When a toxic individual gets the best of you, you may feel like you’re not in control of your emotions.

3. Your Self-Esteem Dwindles

Toxic people are often rude, insulting, and downright degrading. And sometimes, it can be tempting to think things like, “My father makes me feel bad about myself.” But ultimately, your self-worth is up to you and should never be dependent on someone else.

4. You Blame Him or Her for Your Behavior

If you fall prey to a toxic person’s manipulation, you may be tempted to blame him or her for the choices you make. Placing blame for what’s going on in your life, however, is a clear sign that a toxic person has too much power over you. Accept personal responsibility for how you spend your time and who you spend it with.

5. You Dread Spending Time With Them

Feelings of dread can consume a lot of your time and energy. Whether you’re going to a party with a toxic relative, or you’re attending a meeting with a toxic co-worker, allowing that event to ruin the hours, or perhaps even days, leading up to it is a sign that a toxic person is all-consuming.



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