The One Big Lie Your Imposter Syndrome Will Make You Believe

impostersyndromeAuthor: Richard Moy
Source: The Daily Muse

A lot of thoughts tend to go through your head when you’re worried that you’re not good enough for your job.

You might be convinced that your boss asked to see your most recent project again because she’s finally figured out that you’re terrible. Or maybe you wake up with the sinking feeling that you weren’t invited to happy hour last night because your smarter colleagues wanted to talk about how dumb you are.

There are plenty more, of course. But as a card-carrying member of the “Impostor Syndrome Forever Club,” I can tell you there’s one humongous lie that the majority of club members believe on a regular basis.

And because it’s often really hard for people to put it into words, I’ll do it for you.

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Best Advice Dad Ever Gave

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Author: Sarah Sipek
Source: CareerBuilder.com

With Father’s Day right around the corner, we can’t help but think back on all our dads have done for us over the years. Whether it was coaching little league, teaching us to drive or moving us into college, dads have been there to help us overcome many hurdles—and provide valuable lessons along the way. Chances are a lot of those lessons shaped the people we are today.

With that in mind, we posed the question on social media, “What’s the best career advice your dad has ever given you?” Here’s a roundup of answers we received:

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6 Reasons You Keep Making Decisions That Work Against You

decideAuthor: Dan Areily
Source: The Muse

If you’re like me, you work long hours every day and are constantly busy. Why is it then that we often feel fully busy, but unproductive? Why is it that given the amount of work we are trying to produce, we find it so hard to devote time to the activities that are most important to our long-term happiness and wellbeing?

The term “big rocks” describes important undertakings that are easily crowded out by all of the other things we feel we need to get done during the day. Big rocks often include thinking strategically about our careers, making a long-term financial plan, protecting our health, making progress on a large project, learning a new skill, and other activities closely tied to our long-term goals and ambitions. When we face each of these objectives, we recognize their importance, but it is also clear to us how incredibly easy it is to put them off until another day when we’re not as busy fighting fires and dealing with a constant flow of new to-dos.

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Hate Mondays? Here’s 1 Big Reason Why

mondaysAuthor: John Brandon
Source: Inc.com

A new survey suggests there’s a reason Sunday nights are the worst for sleeping. Yet, Mondays are so precious for productivity. Here’s how I battled my way to a sound sleep.

Ever wonder why Mondays are such a drag?

You might want to take a closer look at a new survey about Sunday nights.

An app called Calm asked 4,279 people about weekly sleep patterns, and almost half (or 46%) named Sunday as the night they sleep the worst out of the week.

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5 Ways to Overcome Nervousness According to Science

nervousAuthor: Ginny Graves
Source: HuffPost

Even type A-pluses can defuse high-pressure situations with these dignity-saving techniques.

1. Before a job interview or an important meeting
Jot down three points you want to get across. “If you start worrying, focus your mind on your main points,” says Beilock. That will help keep you in the moment and give you a cheat sheet if you start to panic.

2. Before competing in your favorite sport
Sing or recite poetry to keep yourself from obsessively focusing on— and potentially screwing up— movements you know by heart, says University of Chicago psychology professor Sian Beilock. “It also helps to make your move before you have time to think,” she says. Just serve the ball. Throw the pitch. Make the shot!

3. Before taking a test
Write down your fears, then list the facts that refute them, suggests Beilock. For instance, remind yourself of all the studying you’ve done. “We work with med school students who suffer from test anxiety, and doing this expressive writing technique, in addition to supportive discussion about their fears—and effective test preparation—can help them improve their scores by as much as 10 percent,” says Loren Deutsch, founder of Loren Academic Services in Winnetka, Illinois.

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11 Things to Do The Night Before an Interview

suitAuthor: Alyse Kalish
Source: The Muse

The night before an interview can be a stressful time—usually one filled with “what if’s?”

What if I don’t know the answer to a question? What if I trip and fall on my way into the office? What if I sleep through my alarm and miss the entire thing and never get a job ever again?

This is only normal, and you’re certainly not alone in these thoughts.

But that’s why you should actually spend time the night before doing a little something called preparation! Because when you’re prepared, there’s really no reason to worry.

And we know just what you should do. In fact, we made you a handy checklist to make sure you’re covered on everything from tough interview questions to finding directions to the office to prepping for any mishap.

1. Lay Out Your Outfit

Even if this is something you never do on a regular basis, laying out your outfit the day before ensures you’re not scrambling in the morning to come up with something appropriate. Plus, it’s a great opportunity to check and make sure your shoes match and that your clothes are stain and wrinkle-free.

2. Pack Your Bag

Next stop, pack your bag with all the essentials—a stain stick, makeup, and of course, a copy of your resume (and portfolio if needed).

For even more ideas of things you should pack, this list of nine just-in-case items can help you out.

3. Figure Out Where You’re Going and How You’re Getting There

Hop on Google Maps to make sure you know the route—and check any emails from the company for important information on parking, confusing entrances, and anything else. (Oh, and if you realize it’s a big building or company, plan on spending five to 10 minutes dealing with security.) Write the directions down in your phone so they’re ready to go in the AM.

4. Review Answers to the Most Common Questions

You’ve hopefully been practicing for a few days now. But in case you haven’t, here are a few must-reads:

This feels like a lot—but don’t worry. Any preparation is better than none. So learn what you can tonight and don’t stress about cramming.

5. Research Your Interviewers

Make sure you not only know names, but also titles and department. If you have time, do a quick Google search and a little LinkedIn stalking to get a little background on what they might be working on.

6. Print Out Your Resume

The hiring manager may have your resume on hand, they may not ( insert frustrated sigh here ). Prepare for the person walking in not only empty-handed, but also with a few extra people who would love to see a copy.

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5 Ways to Get a Raise and Earn More Money, and Why So Many Don’t

getaraiseAuthor: Kathy Caprino
Source: Forbes

The other day, a client shared with me her financial situation at work, and asked some probing questions about money, salary, compensation and promotions that revealed a good deal about her personal money story and behavior.

She shared this:

“Kathy, I’m not earning nearly what I should be, despite asking for a raise repeatedly (and being told “Not now”). I just don’t know what else to do. And I can’t figure out why I chronically under-earn compared to my peers at the same level. What should I do differently?

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